Couples Therapy in NYC
Attachment-based, trauma-informed couples therapy to help you repair trust and deepen connection. At Arc NYC Therapy, we’ll explore the patterns between you and build safer ways of being together.
Relationships can be a source of deep support — and deep pain. You might be stuck in the same fight, avoiding hard conversations, or feeling like you’ve drifted from being partners into being roommates.
You don’t have to be on the brink of a breakup to start. Therapy can be a way to strengthen your relationship, not just save it.
The goal isn’t to never fight. It’s to fight less painfully and recover more quickly—with more honesty and care.
How we work with couples
Emotionally focused & attachment-based – helping both of you move from blame and defenses into the deeper feelings and needs underneath: fear of not mattering, fear of being left, fear of being controlled, fear of not being enough.
Relational & trauma-informed – understanding how each partner’s history (family, trauma, neurodivergence, identity) shapes the current dynamic.
Active and practical – we don’t just observe; we slow things down in session so you can try different ways of talking, listening, and repairing in real time.
What couples therapy can help you change
Recognize and interrupt your repeating cycles (pursue/withdraw, attack/defend, shut down/explode)
Communicate more directly and less defensively
Rebuild trust after betrayal or disconnection
Talk about sex, intimacy, and needs with less shame and more clarity
Decide together how you want to move forward—whether that’s deepening commitment, restructuring the relationship, or separating with care
Common questions
Do we need to be “on the same page” about therapy?
No. It’s common for one partner to be more motivated than the other. We name that dynamic and work with it openly rather than pretending it doesn’t exist.
What if we’re not sure if we want to stay together?
We can hold that ambivalence. Therapy can be a place to slow down, understand what’s happened between you, and make decisions with more clarity and care.
Do you work with queer and non-traditional relationships?
Yes. We work with couples and partnerships of various genders, sexual orientations, and structures, including non-monogamous/open relationships.
Reaching out for couples therapy is vulnerable — and it’s also a sign that your relationship matters. Book a free 15-minute consultation with a couples therapist at Arc NYC Therapy to see if this feels like a good fit for both of you.